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Article Series: Dating Tips For Women
I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
How
To Flirt Without Sending The Wrong Message
The fine art of flirting is to catch a man’s
eye without giving him the wrong impression. That can be a
challenge. Watch some old movies like Gone With the Wind. Scarlett
O’Hara was a champion flirter.
She gave the guys just enough attention to captivate them
but never gave away samples. That’s the kind of flirting that
gets you much more than the “voulez vous coucher avec moi,
ce soir” type.
The
first rule of flirting involves making eye contact. In
North American culture, woman can lock eyes with a man without
being considered rude or slutty. Even then, it’s a matter of
catching his eye rather than locking on like a tractor beam
where he feels uncomfortable.
Accomplished flirters only make eye contact for a few seconds
and act is if it was an accident. It’s a matter of perfecting
the look that communicates, “I was actually looking for someone
else, but you stepped into my line of vision.”
The
second rule of flirting is to seem unconcerned about his
response. If he read the signal and approaches, fine. If he
doesn’t get it the first time, don’t give an instant replay.
You might even act surprised that he thought you were interested
in him.
Of course since he came over, you’re willing to look him over
up close. But don’t appear obvious or desperate, either of
which spoils the connection. The third rule of flirting is
to wait for him to make the next move.
Don’t keep pouring it on unless you’re just trying to negotiate
a price. That’s what it seems like when you’re flirting like
a guided missile that’s honing in on a target. Let him be the
pursuer - it’s a role he likes.
Guys are willing to take the easy girl, but they don’t tend
to come back for more. Let him work at getting your attention.
The fourth rule of flirting is to be natural. Once you have
his attention, be yourself.
You don’t have to memorize Scarlett O’Hara’s lines to make
this work. The flirting was merely to telegraph that you might
be interested to see if he’s worth the effort. You can’t keep
up an act for long. If it’s the act he wants, then he won’t
stay around when you finally reveal yourself. Why waste time
for both of you?
The
final rule of flirting is to enjoy yourself. It’s certainly
among your inalienable rights as a female to flirt. Just remember
that as with fishing, flirting can be a pleasant sport - even
if you don’t catch anything or if you have to throw back what
you caught.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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