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I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
Are
You Meeting Men At Bars?
There are a lot of men at bars. On “Ladies
Night,” when women drink free, men flock to the bars. They
know that there’ll be women and free flowing booze, which for
them is the perfect match.
Cheap booze and easy women or easy booze and cheap women,
they don’t care. These men are there for one reason - to find
a woman whose alcohol consumption is up and her defenses down.
Bars are fine for meeting people and having fun with friends.
As for finding Mr. Right, you’re more likely to find
Mr. Right Now. But don’t nice guys go to bars too? Sure, some do and
are just there to hang out with friends after work.
Other
men, who are known to be nice guys at work or around their
families, go to a bar and feel that they can turn
into a bad boy. They’re just looking for a quick hook up, not
a relationship.
But in the time tested tradition of men offering love to get
sex, they say whatever they have to in order to check out your
Victoria’s Secret style. We all know the dangers of drinking
and driving. Not enough women recognize the equal dangers of
drinking and dating.
That guy who seemed so fine at the bar last night walks up
to your apartment the next night to pick you up and you can’t
believe your eyes. This is not the kind of guy that you were
looking for - how did he get your number?
You
gave it to him. Drinking reduces inhibitions, which is a
nice way of saying that your good sense floated away after
the third round of vodka. The bar scene is also the new training
ground for groups of men who aspire to be pickup masters.
There’s even actual live training by guys who claim to be
irresistible. They take groups of losers and pledge to turn
them into super studs in a matter of weeks. And where do these
future hot shots train?
In the local bar, of course. There, they take their memorized
introductory lines and follow a script to pick up women. They’re
coached in techniques that mirror a psychological concept known
as Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), which helps them to
further reduce your fear of them and feel in a short time as
if you’ve known them for quite awhile.
That helps the man to lure you into bed, which is the ultimate
scoring objective of the pickup game. The guy who has sex with
the most women wins. He may have some extensive medical treatments
on the horizon, but he wins as a pickup master!
Notice that the pickup training happens in bars – that’s because
there are plenty of women who are looking to connect and they’re
drinking. This is recognized by the pickup trainers are a powerful
combination: loneliness plus alcohol multiplied by rehearsed
pickup lines.
Do you want to be their next victim? That’s what the bar scene
might become for you. Even if the guys aren’t part of an organized
group, their objective is often the same. Score sex with the
lowest bar tab in the shortest amount of time. No wonder it’s
difficult to meet a sincere guy by bar hopping! Now’s the time
for you to expand your dating pool and see what’s beyond the
lights, music, and drinks being used against you.
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: 2008
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