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Dating For Women - What Not To Do!
When you are starting out online with the
aim of moving on to relationship dating in real life, there
are some things that you absolutely must not do. Some of these
things will kill his interest before you have even hardly started.
Others will backfire on you further down the line, and put
an end to everything you have built up so far. So avoid these
mistakes at all costs.
1. Do not lie
It is so tempting to tell a few small lies, especially online
where nobody can see you and you may not get caught out. But
remember you are not going to get anywhere if this relationship
never makes it off your computer into real life. You are hoping
to meet this guy pretty soon, and most of your lies will catch
up with you.
Many people lie about their age, marital status, weight, height,
job, and even what movies or foods they like, trying to make
them seem more attractive to their ideal mate. The sad thing
is that the more interested the guy is, and the more he likes
you, the more disappointed and turned off he will be when he
finds out you lied to him.
He may not care that you are a couple of years older than
him or whatever, but he WILL care that you lied. He will feel
betrayed and that he cannot trust you, and he will wonder what
other lies you told.
So if there is a question you don't want to answer, either
ignore it or say you'll tell him when you know him better.
You do not have to reveal all your secrets but there is no
need to lie.
2. Do not use an old photo
Do not have a photo that is ten years old on your profile.
It may attract the guy to your profile in the first place,
but he will be disappointed when he meets you and finds you
looking more wrinkly than he expected. It is almost as bad
as finding out you lied. He may not say anything but he will
feel that he has been deceived.
Instead, try to find a recent picture that still makes you
look good. This may mean having one taken professionally. Do
not worry about the cost - it is worth it. Think of it as an
investment in your future.
3. Do not tell all too soon
There is nothing worse than boring a guy with your whole life
story the moment he gets in touch with you. Learn the art of
telling just a little - enough to arouse interest but not enough
to satisfy it, and certainly not so much that you send him
to sleep. Always leave him wanting more!
A good rule of thumb here is to look at how much he wrote
you and write back a little less. Answer any questions that
he asked you, unless you do not want to for some reason, but
answer them briefly. For example if he asks you what you do,
just tell him. Do not give him your full resume or describe
your whole day at work.
Most people like to talk at least as much as they like to
listen. Concentrate on listening, being interested in him and
asking him the same types of questions that he is asking you.
4. Do not be too eager
Generally, it is better not to contact guys first on an online
dating site. Let them do most of the hunting and conquering.
This will keep them interested. It also makes sure that you
do not waste your time on guys who only answered your email
to be polite.
If you see a guy's profile that you really like and you decide
to contact him first, simply write him one line asking him
to take a look at your profile. Then leave it to him to do
that and get in touch with you if he wants to.
When a guy does contact you, do not write back too fast. Wait
at least 24 hours from the time that he sent the message. Then
if he writes again after a week, leave it longer the next time.
Show him that if he wants to hear from you quickly, he must
not keep you waiting too long.
Do not be the one to suggest a face to face meeting first.
This is very likely to scare him away. Guys are usually very
keen to meet women they are interested in so that they can
get things onto a real life, physical basis. So if he doesn't
suggest it, there will be a reason. He may be too busy right
now, he may have lied about something, he may even be married.
Forget it. Stay in touch casually by email if you want to,
but keep looking for someone who does want to meet you so that
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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