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How
To Stay Safe on Dates
With so many people meeting online or in bars,
dating can take a dangerous turn before you realize what’s
happening. Being along with a stranger isn’t the best idea
for your safety.
If you’re alone at his place, then you’re completely vulnerable
and he is in charge. That’s not a smart move. Every year women
of all ages do this and some end up dead or missing without
a trace. Don’t become a dating nightmare statistic.
Dating safety means making decisions using common sense instead
of hormones. For a first date or blind date, arrange
to meet in a public place - not a parking lot or a bar in his neighborhood.
Meet at a multi-screen movie complex, the mall, or a busy
restaurant on a major street. Invite some friends to join you
so that when you meet the new guy, you spend time in the group.
That lets you and your friends size him up before you leave
the group. If you have any hesitation about how he acts or
talks, then don’t leave the safety of your group. Even after
he leaves, he might be angry at the rejection so don’t walk
to your car alone. Ask someone in the group to walk with you
or ride with them to your car.
If
you do decide to go out alone with him, let your best friend
know where you are and the name of the guy you’re dating. You
can also write that information on a note and tape it to your
bathroom mirror.
It’s sad to think that you could be harmed by your date, but
if that did happen, the note could help lead authorities to
him. You also need to have an agreement with a friend that
you will call at least within 6 hours of leaving on the date
or your friend needs to start looking for you.
It’s normal to share information about your lives as part
of getting to know each other. Talking about your work, your
hobbies and your favorite places needs to be a broad discussion
until you get to know him.
You don’t need to give out your address or exact information
about your office. If he keeps slanting the conversation toward
money and how much you make or spend, then you need to walk
away.
He has no need to know your financial status. That’s a red
flag that he could be a con man who is trying to get to know
you better so he can get money from you. The more he presses
you for personal information early in the relationship, the
more he sounds like he’s ready to take over your life.
He may be insecure and want to be in every part of your world
or he may be gathering information so that he knows how to
isolate you from your friends later. That’s the way abusive
men act - they charm you then they isolate you from friends
and family so you feel that you must depend only on them.
An important way to stay safe on a first date is to avoid
drinking alcohol or taking any drink that’s open and poured
out of your sight. It’s not just among the college crowd that
the date rape drug is used.
Stick with bottled water or soda and make sure you open the
container. Don’t put your drink down to dance - keep it in
your hands or get another drink. Never think you’re safe because
he’s with you every minute.
While he has your attention, his friend could be slipping
a drug into your drink. It sounds outrageous, but it happens
to too many women of all ages in all types of dating situations
and being aware is the best defense you have.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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