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I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
Ladies,
Stop Seeking Approval From Men
Somewhere in time, women became known as “the
weaker sex.” Tell that to Joan of Arc, Cleopatra, Annie Oakley
or Susan B. Anthony. Obviously those women, an entire tribe
of Amazons and possibly many of your friends would fiercely
disagree.
So why are you surrendering yourself to get the approval of
some guy? You’re falling for an idea that psychologists call
the “approval trap.” Before you start to defend yourself, yes,
it’s great when you get affirmation from friends and co-workers
for what you do.
The problem is when you depend on their approval for who you
are. See the difference? Handing over your self-esteem
to anyone is a dangerous and usually damaging choice. The person whose
approval you believe that you must have can respond honestly
or dishonestly.
He could choose to be an encourager to you or verbally take
you down to his Neanderthal level. You’re making a sucker bet
by changing yourself to gain his approval. The price is simply
too high.
To attract a man who is secure in himself and ready to be
an equal partner in a relationship, you have to be that kind
of person. Like minds attract. If you’re an insecure and clingy
woman who has no idea who she is, then why do you think you’ll
attract a man who is the opposite?
The type of man that you don’t want is counting on you to
play the old role of doing whatever it takes to snag him. Maybe
you cut your hair when you don’t want to or spend a week’s
paycheck to add hair weaves when you prefer short hair.
Then you change your wardrobe from business classic to streetwalker
glam because that’s what he likes. You “learn” to drink or
smoke because he wants you to do it even though you’ve been
adamantly opposed to both.
In no time, you make excuses to ditch your friends because
he wants to “be alone” or “expand your circle.” The way to
snag this guy is to give up your life and your identity to
be his personal toy. Bad deal for you, great deal for him.
History also shows men as pursing the Holy Grail or the buried
treasure. When motivated that the prize is worth the effort,
men go to any lengths to win. What if that treasure is you?
Are you presenting yourself as a treasure, a person of great
worth? You do that by being your authentic self. The right
kind of man respects consistency and self esteem in a woman
and he won’t ask you to change into something you aren’t.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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